by: Nancy K. Eberhardt
Often we compliment resilience, adaptability, and compromise. We say “thanks,” believing the harmony it brings is always a good thing.
And yet those traits are a double-edged sword. Sometimes “no” is a better answer, staying resolute when we know we are right and the stakes are high.
Too much of a good thing can have costs: it can build resentment, cloud your intentions, and prevent others from developing their resilient/adaptive muscles as they partner with you.
It’s like always yielding in a car, even when you have the right of way – it can cause accidents.
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Nancy K. Eberhardt
A seasoned professional who’s walked the walk.Read More »